View Full Version : Poll: Can you have a relationship in a stable threesome?
Sargasm
10-16-2009, 06:23 PM
What are people's opinions are of the effect of the threesome on a long term relationship?
Can a threesome happen and not fuck up a relationship? Make it better? Add some VD to the mix?
Sargasm
10-16-2009, 06:26 PM
Dammit, can a mod take out "Poll:" from the thread title. Redundant title is redundant.
cthabeerman
10-16-2009, 06:35 PM
I had an old coworker in Nebraska who is a dirty old man and lived in San Fran during the days of free love.
His feeling on the subject was this: "Whichever of the two chicks you love more is the one you'll lose. Then you'll be stuck with the one you don't want. And getting out of that is tougher than getting into the damn threesome was in the first place."
Your situation could be quite different from his, though. After all, you fuck dudes...
-C
DjGhettoSteve
10-16-2009, 06:37 PM
Been in a successful open marriage for going on 8 years now. There will be moments that aren't all fun, but that goes for any relationship - regardless of number of persons involved. Certainly, there is an additional aspect of trickiness whenever adding additional parties, so it's a matter of how stable is your relationship at the time you add another person to it, what are your ground rules, etc. As long as there are clearly defined rules and everyone adheres to them, usually it works out just fine.
DjGhettoSteve
10-16-2009, 06:38 PM
Your situation could be quite different from his, though. After all, you fuck dudes...
-C
ime, guys are waaaay less drama than girls...
cthabeerman
10-16-2009, 06:40 PM
Straight guys, sure. But we're talking about gay dudes. Viewing my gay friends' relationships as an outsider, I would say it's not at all the same.
All of this is circumstantial, though. I don't think Eean is really into dudes...could be wrong. Just sayin'.
-C
DjGhettoSteve
10-16-2009, 06:43 PM
Straight guys, sure. But we're talking about gay dudes. Viewing my gay friends' relationships as an outsider, I would say it's not at all the same.
All of this is circumstantial, though. I don't think Eean is really into dudes...could be wrong. Just sayin'.
-C
true, but I obviously don't have direct experience with gay dudes... except my ex-fiance from college, hmmm, he was rather a drama queen... lol, I dunno... maybe I should get caught up on Queer as Folk and Noah's Ark for comparison's sake?
cthabeerman
10-16-2009, 06:57 PM
maybe I should get caught up on Queer as Folk and Noah's Ark for comparison's sake?
That could work, but probably not as well as just befriending some gay dudes.
-C
rolfmonster
10-16-2009, 07:05 PM
After all, you fuck dudes...
-C
:lmao:
quality shit right hurr
KayceeFace
10-16-2009, 07:15 PM
IF YOU go into a relationship with those intentions already on the table then I think you'll be alright. if you're in a relationship and are having threesomes to "spice things up" thenyou might as well break up because thats where you're heading IMO
Brian_D
10-16-2009, 08:07 PM
sub jec tive
Mad_Cat
10-16-2009, 08:52 PM
threesome's are great but it's really really rare to be in a relationship where you and your gf can handle it without fucing everything up.
i've seen it go really good and really bad so i guess imo just make sure your head is on straight before you get into it.
unless of coarse you just happen to fuck two random ladies one night out of the blue = rock out with the cock out >:O
Jazzmin
10-16-2009, 08:52 PM
IF YOU go into a relationship with those intentions already on the table then I think you'll be alright. if you're in a relationship and are having threesomes to "spice things up" thenyou might as well break up because thats where you're heading IMO
Agreed.
Being the "guest star" for a night is all well and good, but I wouldn't go there if it was a guest star coming into my relationship. Fuck that.
Cha0s By Design
10-16-2009, 09:00 PM
Its not a black and white answer.
It depends on the relationship and it depends on the people involved.
It will be different in any given situation.
rolfmonster
10-16-2009, 10:51 PM
sorry guys, I'm taking a break for a second from 4chan, forgot to vote earlier
back in the morning!
~!MjC!~
10-16-2009, 11:12 PM
I am gonna say no your can't.
~!MjC!~
10-16-2009, 11:13 PM
& Eean... you make the lamest threads ever. Just sayin'.
precariousleigh
10-17-2009, 09:54 AM
It's definitely all subjective. Clearly defined rules are a must. In my experience it's never worked. Someone always ends up with hurt feelings & the relationship ultimately ended. I know two couples that made it work for two or more years, but they ended up breaking up in the end too. Women usually say they're going to be alright with the whole scenario, and then end up with hurt feelings & feeling spiteful toward the guy later. Or maybe that was just me...
Sargasm
10-17-2009, 09:33 PM
threesome's are great but it's really really rare to be in a relationship where you and your gf can handle it without fucing everything up.
i've seen it go really good and really bad so i guess imo just make sure your head is on straight before you get into it.
unless of coarse you just happen to fuck two random ladies one night out of the blue = rock out with the cock out >:O
Yeah, I'm not seriously considering it.
A co-worker of my fiancée wanted some action. I mean I can't say I haven't always thought of being with a couple girls, but it really isn't my MO.
We talked about it and she semi-jokingly suggested it the co-worker, who was apparently very enthusiastic about the idea.
I have a pretty good relationship with a hot fiancée that has 17 years of dance/ballet/stretching training and a body to match, it really wouldn't be worth rocking the boat on that for 2-3 hours of strange with a chick that we have to see regularly afterwards.
Mad_Cat
10-18-2009, 11:38 AM
Yeah, I'm not seriously considering it.
A co-worker of my fiancée wanted some action. I mean I can't say I haven't always thought of being with a couple girls, but it really isn't my MO.
We talked about it and she semi-jokingly suggested it the co-worker, who was apparently very enthusiastic about the idea.
I have a pretty good relationship with a hot fiancée that has 17 years of dance/ballet/stretching training and a body to match, it really wouldn't be worth rocking the boat on that for 2-3 hours of strange with a chick that we have to see regularly afterwards.
yea that could go south on you, it's best if you don't see the third party ever again imo
DjGhettoSteve
10-18-2009, 11:45 AM
yea that could go south on you, it's best if you don't see the third party ever again imo
repeat performances can be done, without weirdness, but there have to be reasonable expectations set ahead of time. if the new addition thinks that it's going to be a relationship vs no-strings-sex, yeah, you're gonna have a bad time... just like french-frying when you should be pizza-slicing... you're gonna have a bad time. It does help if you've got experience with FTF's, since that's a friend that you see frequently outside of the sexual context.
I have a pretty good relationship with a hot fiancée that has 17 years of dance/ballet/stretching training and a body to match, it really wouldn't be worth rocking the boat on that for 2-3 hours of strange with a chick that we have to see regularly afterwards.
She started dancing when she was born?
To add my 2c to this post, I wouldn't suggest even trying if you feel like holding on to the one you're with now. If you know it's on the way out (girl suggesting getting with another girl is sometimes a good sign of that), then go for it, and enjoy as much as you can before it ends, because it will end. Usually asking about having a 3some is due to someone's needs not being met currently, which leads to breaking up ultimately unless you can fix it between you both (not needing external help). Communication is key here.
By you talking about the physical shape of your girl primarily as the reason you don't want to rock the boat and not mentioning any other connection to her, I bet this relationship's not going to last anyway.
I could go into my experience on the matter, but I'd rather not lol.
DjGhettoSteve
10-18-2009, 01:14 PM
She started dancing when she was born?
hehe, not all of us are pedo-bears like you and phill...
How old was Ash when you started hanging out with her?
don't lie haha.
Besides, this is Eean we're talking about :)
DjGhettoSteve
10-18-2009, 01:51 PM
How old was Ash when you started hanging out with her?
don't lie haha.
Besides, this is Eean we're talking about :)
ouch... I go there once and never live it down... lmao
Dave M
10-18-2009, 06:34 PM
By you talking about the physical shape of your girl primarily as the reason you don't want to rock the boat and not mentioning any other connection to her, I bet this relationship's not going to last anyway.
BAM !!!
If you're not all that interested in keeping her around in your heart of hearts, if you understand that you're on the way out, then to hell with it, do it. But if you want your relationship to stick around, probably not a great idea. Even if the girl says it's all good, even if she thinks it will be all good, it probably won't be. Girls are jealous bitches 99% of the time.
Personally I'd be a little pissed if my man wanted to bring another girl in, actually I'd be a lotta pissed. But being the hypocritical, sybaritic whore that I am, I probably wouldn't take too much issue with bringing another guy in since I'd still be the center of attention. I could pick and choose who to favor more rather than having to compete for affection with some bitch.
Sargasm
10-18-2009, 10:16 PM
How old was Ash when you started hanging out with her?
don't lie haha.
Besides, this is Eean we're talking about :)
Yeah it's actually twins... they're at least 11 years old each.
WAVERUNNER
10-18-2009, 10:32 PM
Its not a black and white answer.
It depends on the relationship and it depends on the people involved.
It will be different in any given situation.
So if your man is white, the guest star should be black? That might just ruin the tightness of the relationship.
Sargasm
10-18-2009, 10:46 PM
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Erik Mitchell
10-19-2009, 09:03 AM
Meh threesomes are over-rated, I've only got one peen FFS
Steve
10-19-2009, 11:18 AM
Had two... not worth the complications.
Love the one you're with. If you can't do that... just move on.
What Dismalstep said.
CAN YOUR HAVE A RELATIONSHIP>?!?
Steve
10-19-2009, 12:28 PM
ALL YOUR CAKE ARE BELONG TO EATING IT TOO.
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Steve
10-19-2009, 02:47 PM
Nice work.
You left Ninden out, though! :D
WAREZ NINDEN!??!
Tommy B
10-19-2009, 02:47 PM
LOL!!!
Bubb for PRES!!
Sharpshooter
10-19-2009, 02:54 PM
LOL!!!
Bubb for PRES!!
:lol: Did he even post in this thread?
Tommy B
10-19-2009, 03:24 PM
:lol: Did he even post in this thread?
no, but he was the one that made that big love photochop
haha. win. I asked him for the link cuz it fit perfect.
Sharpshooter
10-19-2009, 03:35 PM
:lol: Just noticed that it's a chop.
jCole
10-19-2009, 05:09 PM
LOL!!!
Bubb for PRES!!
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